Fisting

It exists in all parts of the community, and especially in the lesbian world. My experience is more in the leather scene. When asked if it exists in the lesbian community…I don’t know if my answer is valid.

You see I am a fringe person. The only place I ever belong has been the S/m community and the Martial Arts.I have always been on the edge of the edge.

So, having said that I will think about technique and post in the future. For now…realize that it is one of the most erotic experiences a woman can have with another woman. It works well for us cause our hands are usually the right size.The trick is to take your time. To be flexible. To be in touch with the “bottom” (in this case…the person on the receiving end…oh and many people consider fisting an S/m activity…I actually do not). Being conscious of what is going on with the bottom is, in my opinion a part of the Top’s job! Sure, much or most is for the Top’s pleasure, and that is directly related to the pleasure of the recipient.It means knowing what they are experiencing. How do you know this? Probably a good question to ask yourself!Creating a first time fisting experience for a woman is a beautiful thing. Raising energy and getting her hotter than ever is important. Younger women lubricate very easily. And still, have a large bottle of lubricant available. I prefer “ID”. Years ago I used clown makeup-remover or “Abschminke”. It was the best, but in today’s disease-ridden world…that is no longer an option.

So…1. Wake up the areaGet her really hot; take 10x longer to the point of penetration. As a matter of fact touch touch touch and touch, but…do not penetrate!

2. Go in just a bit, and go outtttt and go back to #1

3. Sam as above

4. and again

5. Careful, you are getting really really turned on, and must remember this is not just about you.

6. Remember to use the other hand to work other areas!

7. As you are moving toward your goal of fisting remember to only mess with the “G” spot occasionally. The G spot tends to create a lubricant that is much dryer, so now is a good time to use more Lub.

8. Realize you can turn your hand. It can move with the woman. You will probably have an easy time to enter to the ends of your fingers/knuckles. That is where is can get tricky. Especially if you do NOT have small hands.

9. A woman’s vagina is able to accommodate the birth of a child…thus it is able to let your fist in. If you take your time, use enough lube and get her hot enough at some point the vagina will relax, and she will let you in.

10. Do Not force it. That is not the object in the beginning. You do not want to risk tearing her! (and then winding up in the emergency room!)

11. As she relaxes you will know. That is the moment to push. Once you are in, stop for a moment and regulate your breathing…even matching hers. Her body will guide you.

12. You will be able to (or the body will force you to) make a fist. I tend to keep my hand somewhat elongated when I am “working”. Although, at first my hand listens to her body and makes a fist.

13. She will guide you by her movements and breathing.

14. When you are done…if you have not pulled out already, if she has had orgasm…and is now wanting you out…have her cough several times and pull out in about three coughs!